2009-03-20(Fri)
Just drink eyebrow colleagues wedding, the thought that she was also immersed in the joy of the wedding and sweet, and can not think of how eyebrow honeymoon had not yet finished, on to闹起divorce. At many times to persuade friends, she finally walked into the psychological out-patient courage.
After the burglary, sad face, she whispered好半天only speaks his own mind: "My husband is childhood, premarital two good feelings can be after getting married my husband could not bear the 'affectionate', a few days ago also a big argument with him. morning I look at pre-marital sex life blending psychosomatic, but I do not know why can not help feeling that his genitals are 'dirty', the kiss and caress him so often that my association涎水and 'dirty 'hands. Every time after the total END want desperately brushing, bathing, changing bed sheets, and then later more and more emphasis on symptoms, sexual intercourse in more than disgusting. "
Why is there such a strange phenomenon? Original psychological abnormalities are making the "free", she had - "sexual obsessive."
Sexual obsessive even though the parties are referring to at rational admit on each other's genitals and sexual behavior are clean, but always can not help each other in the psychological feel "dirty", or always their own association to consider certain "dirty" things. Its happened often mostly female.
At present, most experts tend to think that this disease happen because women are in their growth process by the traditional culture of improper influence or sex education. In addition, a lack of understanding of science is also leading to the disease one of the factors that can not be ignored.
This case the performance of the eyebrow so that we can easily see that the sexual obsessive has not only a physical health problem, it is her psychological abnormalities, that is, the spirit of obsessive obsessive more terrible than the physical.
Enhance the psychology of sexual anatomy and sexual knowledge, and form a correct understanding of obsessive happen after all, an important preventive aspect.
Treatment of sexually obsessive, they are advised at psychologists under the guidance of, first of all, should recognize and face up to求治者disease, if we find that they have been kissed by the caress of life or emotional aversion appears, it should be recalled what are the reasons (of course want rule out the possibility that diseases, external interference or when other factors such as poor emotional). Secondly, self-obsessive search of the source, pay attention to analysis of the experience of childhood and adolescence, can not remember, others may wish to ask about why there is no risk of sexual obsessive. Third, after the crux of the problem in identifying the need to actively look for their own psychological desensitization. Understand commonly used clinical cognitive therapy, systematic desensitization therapy and behavior modification, combined with medication, is particularly effective for the newlywed couples may eventually eliminate the "dirty" the psychological, emotional harvest a pleasant surprise.
2009-03-20(Fri)
A long time, people not only lack of understanding of sexual restraint, even in traditional Chinese and Western culture, sexual restraint as a magic weapon for self-cultivation. For example, in the traditional Chinese concept often think sex can be depletion of semen, Qiang debilitating and harmful to health, people were asked to Qingxin few desires, control of sexuality to longevity. With modern medical point of view, this will be a basic human instinct, it is important physiological function and health of people in opposition to the view, natural is not worth refuting.
While in Europe have a different view, all the genius of discovery and achievement are derived from the sublimation of sexual energy. In other words, sexual restraint can stimulate people's creativity, to create a genius with Albert. Say someone in Russia, Gogol would give people reason to leave such as the novel "Dead Souls", "Diary of a Madman" and the satirical comedy "imperial minister" This immortal masterpiece of literature and art, are for life because he never married, has lived凄苦of celibacy. The sexologist today do not agree with the view that human reason has so many inventions, scientific discoveries and literary masterpiece, in fact, it is precisely because of love, because nature has provided people with a boundless spiritual strength, and long-term restraint for both men and women are very harmful to health.
So, how long will the people of moderate physical hurt caused by what?
Abstinence of physical and psychological harm to women should not be underestimated
Against women, the long-term pelvic restraint can cause blood stasis, more easily suffer from attachment inflammation, ovarian gynecological inflammation go far. Women at the beginning of their sexual abstinence may be enhanced, and in a few months after their sexual abstinence may completely disappear, and at the resumption of livelihood after the slow process of its arousal. Intercourse, vaginal discharge due to a reduction in pain, at the same time can cause性高潮障碍, it was subject to a few months of its response can be restored orgasm unabated. It is worth mentioning that, long-term abstinence can also lead to women's psychological and behavioral change. Say there is information, the lack of sex life, women often lose their self, they are often impractical because some ideas are upset. Abstinence of women is not only a result of sleep disorders, headache and stomach cramps等症, but also give rise to various neurological, and some women in the clones after two months of life can occur after the over-sensitive. Abstinence woman often secretly tears, sometimes trivial because of the colleagues and neighbors but could not大动肝火. More interesting is that they sometimes paranoid thought, if they live in Western countries also coincides with the presidential election is likely to vote for those who are most radical political parties and leaders.
Turning to some research data have long-term abstinence on long-term health effects such as long-term livelihood of the women did not rough skin, face无华, more aging. Single men, shortened their average life expectancy 12 years old, while women may be shortened by 5-year-old. These women are not only more susceptible to pelvic inflammatory disease, such as gynecological and breast cancer incidence than women have high regularity of life more than doubled. Therefore, we must not underestimate the sexual restraint to bring about the physical and psychological damage to women!
Male impotence sexual abstinence is inseparable friends
Of sexual maturity for men and women, sexual abstinence is the anti-natural. From the physiological point of view, people of all organs should continue to carry out the necessary function of activity, otherwise happen in the body of all the nerve, endocrine and biochemical processes will be destroyed, is the entire body or a specific organ cancer disease. All organs in the body and its functional activities, including sexual function and sexual activity. In this sense, sexual restraint are harmful to natural health.
Research has shown that long-term restraint so that men experience pain more strongly than that of women. Sexual restraint, the men's sexual impulses will always happen, and even more frequent, and at this time of tension in the body also can not be normal sex life has been released, if things continue this way can be caused by sexual organs, especially prostate and blood of chronic congestive stasis, which eventually led to the occurrence of prostatitis, such as abstinence have been suffering from prostatitis symptoms can be aggravated. At the same time, long-term abstinence can also make men drop capabilities, and even suffering from impotence, premature ejaculation等症. Therefore, the foreign sentence has a very popular saying: "Men are of moderate impotence inseparable friends."
In addition, if abstinence male aged about 25 years old and strong sexual physique, at 2 weeks after abstinence abstinence brought about changes in sexual function can be quickly restored, such as 30 ~ 35-year-old man interrupted sex life as long as several months, the risk of premature ejaculation, and the possibility of suffering from erectile dysfunction will increase; such as 40-year-old man of long-term abstinence is likely to result in impotence and other sexual dysfunction and is often necessary to seek medical help; and over 50 years of age Man of the long-term abstinence, the sexual function of the damage more difficult to restore as usual.
Sexologist's advice and recommendations
Is a human instinct, but also the human body a very important and natural physiological function, not to think that only sexual indulgence are harmful to human body, in fact, control of health hazards of same should not be underestimated.
In the status of marriage for those who have regular sex life, this is a healthy and reasonable way of life, because normal sex life is not only essential to the feelings of both sides lovers contact, but also it difficult to substitute for the normal physiological需要.
As many question the need for long-term livelihood have been disposable, which is the frequency of sex life, because people's individual differences, has never been the so-called "normal standards." However, a sexologist or give people targets for reference:
If the Male 20 to 30 years old, a week l intercourse 7 times more appropriate one;
If Men 30-50 years old, a week l intercourse 3 times more appropriate one;
Men over the age of 60 if the monthly sex l ~ 2 times more appropriate.
For those who for various reasons the law should not lead a normal life, people should try to reduce unnecessary stimulation, because of restraint coupled with sexual stimulation on the health hazards greater. Do not think that reading pornographic novels, look at the yellow video or walked up and down the street to wait and see the beauty, you can "fancies" and relieve the pressure, in fact, can only add fuel to the flames, in fact are "drinking poison to quench thirst." At this time should be arranged a variety of cultural and recreational activities in order to minimize the sexual stimulation.
At the moment the lack of sexual partners and forced to take control of circumstances, masturbation may be through a variety of ways to alleviate sexual tension. Same sex masturbation is a normal sexual practices. Sometimes the best alternative to sexual intercourse without embarrassing, not to have remorse psychological. Oscillator can be used when necessary, such as tools, sex dolls, this is actually a kind of masturbation is the way people are being more acceptable.
2009-03-20(Fri)
In 1992, ME and Lin introduced Know, Love a year to get married. Give him my honest first impression is, first told me to meet him on the origin of rural, relatively poor family, worried that I will disdain him. I like the simple and honest man honest, but many a layer of his good opinion, and Lam, who as a soldier, build a very robust, so I feel very insecure.
Very sweet days of love, Lin Qiang, after demobilization when assigned to a primary school PE teacher, leisure job comparison, he came to pick me after work every day. Our time together, sometimes referred to him, but naturally I am a traditional person, hope to be able to put their wedding night to give him complete. Lam, who respect my opinion, never forced me, I am glad to find a reliable man.
Can we get married later, Lim called for every day and I have sex, but every day more than once, I think perhaps people are newly married this way, this is me love him the performance of it, so I am also happy to accept it. Honeymoon so we昏天暗地to have sex, sometimes I think too much, but the total Lin Qiang said that he love me too, me too necessary. I think as a wife's obligation to give her husband met, or try to obey him so.
My job often required to perform night work上半夜on到凌晨两点, two points up from midnight to 8:00 am. For safety considerations, before marriage and my sister the same units, as long as they work at night and sleep in the unit room. After they married, Lin Qiang下夜班each night shifts or have to transfer in all weathers, all admire and sisters said: "Wah sister, very good luck to you, husband hurt you so." I有苦说不出.
Usually at home, every night asked Lin to experience their sexuality, not sparing逢到work at night, two points off me at night, so tired already speechless, could be back after he first met him but also can sleep; If it is the middle of the night to night shifts, have done before they take my unit go. I have one night a night to meet him I put only one-year-old son threw many at home, can not find his son after the father mother woke up, scared out of his wits, crying mess. Go back and see my poor child looked like a DC distressed tears.
At noon every day he came to pick me off, go home, he has already put the food ready, waiting for me after eating rice and his wife have been living, all year long, have made so much. I have protested, but Lim said that if I can not meet him, he would go outside to find another woman. In order to maintain family harmony, I reluctantly according to him. To tell the truth, apart from this point to allow Lin Qiang, I can not accept outside, and the rest is really impeccable, dedication of children, household chores at home are also all-inclusive, and apart from this matter are in accordance with my other. I usually go home下了班do not do anything, He also rushing meal dishes, I would also look at household chores to do, he would have grabbed the hands of my live, said: "Do not dry, you put energy retention. "I listened to this, is dumbfounding.
Time periods have to give. Is there any way that he always put the first day of the next day could not help, and want to hurry on. I said the first trimester of pregnancy, what do not agree, he would solve their own, usually lying in bed masturbating in front of my face, I feel very embarrassed, but he Do not care. Sometimes repeatedly asked me to help him in other ways to solve, I watch him憋得hard for me to help him occasionally. Pregnant after three months, he could not wait to take on married life. One month before giving birth to a child, he has to, I can give. Marry all these years, my flow three times, the doctor confessed flow within one month after the Say not to the same room may be the fastest one in my crowd after the third day on the死缠烂打begged him and under him with the room.
Are you afraid of an impact on the body? Of course they were scared, but there is any way, I do not agree with one, he would instead look for a woman to threaten me. The fourth year of our marriage, he really has had a affair, I also kept in the dark beginning, the leadership of his unit told me, and I filed for divorce, he knelt down to look at for my children to forgive him on the sub - . At that time, small children before the age of two, finally, I will be a softie.
Some will feel that this is not normal? Certainly you, at first I thought him This is young, good physical strength, but are more than ten years of marriage, his point did not reduce sexual desire. Every day more than once want, but will never be tired of the time. Me on the point of death, when the young can cope with, and now 40 years old and not so true and strong sexuality.上一天班usually enough of a tired, go home even if do not have to do any household chores do not want to do that thing every day. Coupled with a big age slowly, the following are also feeling more and more do, to experience their sexuality, when he co-ordination and Happiness, however, I feel pain, there was no pleasure at all. I am also a little numb over time, and he him to do, and I sleep me, there is true even fell asleep several times, he was very unhappy that I am not a woman, unable to meet their own husband.
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2009-03-16(Mon)
My husband and I (Sing) are officially having a sexual relationship before marriage, which attributed the whole of my stick. Love when I was in awe of him, and never easy to hands and feet, he is conscious, "GAO Pan" I, so just try to please me. In fact, a lot of time, I hope that he will closely hug me, or there is further "adventure", but he did not dare, to taste first-served basis, and never越雷池一步.
Sometimes, I even hate him some, then a rough person, in front of me how could it become so obedient? Him are misreading my hypocritical, in fact, I prefer him to color some, some confidence, and even high-handed, but very regrettable. Love is a zero distance between two contacts, at least should also maintain a "heartbeat away", but he does seem a bit too "respect" me, me害得suffering from a serious "love the skin disease of hunger." Every time after the Date, regardless of the weather, he should send me to my house downstairs, and then kissing ritual manner, and turned to leave. I really some恨铁不成钢, how he will not be able to "read" out of my eyes look so愁怨? Kiss him too superficial and too careful!
That was some of the spring breeze blowing and no rain date. He touched my heart, but did not dare touch my heart. From then on, I learned to masturbate. Date returned home after the evening every day, I put one on the hot tub of water, drop some flavor, presumptuous to put their own soak in warm spring water, the longer (Sing) sent me the one to tear up a Rose so that petals floating around in my body ... ... hot spring water lubrication撩拨chord with me, teasing me with the lonely, immersion Yee my thinking ... ... I am very thirsty, and breathing speed up, crimson cheeks, as if a "halo soup ", and if the symptoms are a kind of climax, there is the feeling of flying, but sunken and confused, and can not escape a kind of ecstasy and pleasure of the flesh, I am a person浅笑,暇想turn a blind eye, a person from抚着粉臂, earlobe ... ... until the toes, every inch of their precious skin, or whispered sigh, I like the bathtub小妖,自梳, lyrical, until exhausted, weak, lazy, barefoot out of the bathroom, Back to bed, but glasses of red wine,轻啜and ask ourselves: "I am drunk? me how the?"
那阵子, Dah Sing almost every night take me to places of entertainment are playing, I came back again with water with the lingering Huan, the entire bath will be filled with the desire to play a fragrant, hot very hot, I hot. Such days have been masturbating for more than a year after my marriage officially registered and Daxin. Anthurium bridal chamber night, I was with a curious look forward to working with her husband have been married on the bed, I was a virgin real body, he was very satisfied with the very glory, as if the Nobel Prize. He is very best, but also very fun, I win the fruits of his hard, hungry to taste with him.
After the honeymoon period (around 3 months now), have passed their freshness, we make love when my eyes start睁着naughty to watch him "ferocious" greedy face, this, he was not suited, but also embarrassed that show me nothing, just let him do a thing alone. However, this can not blame me ah, because he is always the same routine, so I think that is a kind of more like gymnastics, monotonous, boring, step in place, silent, working hard, he is fixed in their own bodies "busy" , it has never released a hand-off well-aware of my body, my humidity, my heart, and my skin is full of desire ah. He did not understand the needs of women, he mistakenly believe that soft things done has been done before marriage, and in fact, he then did not implement gentle; and after getting married, in his view, as long as he frequency and time enough to have sex more than long enough to prove that he has enough how necessary and how much I love me, and this is enough, do not know or do not want to know all I need What kind of foreplay, a woman's body and mind is impossible to simply rely on power can be conquered, and he understand? him know acupoint you love me? he did not have before the show, no flirting, no attention to my reaction to this sex, for me, too low-class and every time I have not always completely into the role, he completed the mission, stand up whir sleep. I start from premarital aftertaste in the bathtub all the magnificent imagination, the kind of hydrophilic desire and emotion and heart to leap.
I am a bit dumbfounding, are half an hour the same time, now, her husband's "efforts" on how the loss of a role, how to require immediate action such as a general? Once was so eager to "boyfriend" Zero hug can become a boyfriend " husband ", this distance how people will lose the destruction? Is it true that only because he re-attack, but does not know how my" bull's eye "where, my sex,"七寸"where? deviated from the bull's-eye with七寸, him all the "operation" has become the soul of the operation of machinery is not? In short, yes I am very disappointed, disappointed, to re-start once Flanagan picked up masturbation close up feathers, slept in his description, I borrow one cylinder Hot Springs, with their physical dialogue, mutual pity, share the climax.
One night, I can not help but turn a blind eye呻呤at Hot Springs Village, and her husband, frowning face appeared embarrassed and ashamed in front of me, I actually have no knowledge of. Night, my husband seems to be a slap in the face fan, I do not know what to do. When I wiped away the body back to bed, he suddenly by light bedside lamps, cold to my question: "What do you mean? Why can I not meet you?" I'm terribly shocked to see him, do not understand what he was talking about. When he unreservedly depicts my bathtub masturbation at all, "ugly", I am furious hand gave him a slap in the face, he did not fight back, but revenge at me like a ride, like the forced intrusion into泄恨my body, I have appointed him dead in general "about", there is no breathing, no tears, only the cold eyes. Me more cold, more him die, and finally, he lost, points, smoking cigarettes, nothing. I once again returned to the bathtub, the water to understand my heart ... ...
Now, I have a hot spring bath produced a psychological dependence on the husband's sex, for me, up to the obligations and is only a warm-up, only to return to the bathtub, I would really have the "cool" and happy, water through the skin, infiltration of my soul, and wetting my mind the most soft那片landscape. In terms of their heart, the husband told me not bad, but his methods have sex too rough, there is no quality to speak of, but fortunately I found him from the pleasure and satisfaction the climax, although I am gradually slow. Nevertheless, I still worry that he will eventually have their own apathy, because "Bath" and "have sex with her husband," In a sense, I am more accustomed to the former. This is not a disease? Me how to do?
Comments: masturbation not guilty, but by no means are the perfect way, sex can only be a compensation and alternative. Its occurrence is normal must be the lack of sex. Especially the "marital masturbation", only show a discordant sex couples or other problems. The reason why some people make masturbation addiction, because it is more "self", more targeted, it is in accordance with their own preferred approach to meet the demand. Therefore, in marriage, a good and frank communication between husband and wife are very important, mutual understanding of their unique needs, to meet each other, the common enjoyment of fish and water Huan, as a leading man, should take the initiative to go take care of the woman's physical and mental needs, because only her positive "sex" is mobilized, there would be real sex life of flowers. In addition, when women make love, tends to be more imaginative and more dependent on the imagination, how to channel their imagination, their closely Driven while intoxicated and around their own micro-halo is a good man must have sex talents. Otherwise, it is possible to put my wife's thoughts go lose to the wall in full bloom, it is not only a waste of feelings, not the husband's negligence?
In fact, the analysis of hot spring bath "quality", we can understand that the lady's husband did not at least do the following: the right temperature, the soothing nuanced, shimmering sultry, blurred mist, obedient, gentle, all-pervasive, and promote blood circulation ... true ... have sex is not a simple male estrus vent, but also found a lovely woman's passion and style脉胳secret maps, combat effectiveness is very important, but depends on whether the two sides co-production, and have a share heart.
2009-03-16(Mon)
性冷淡? Lack of orgasm? Children because of the quality of life as a result of the previous situation? Now to recommend a set of保健操you, let you be a sex goddess.
Show leg exercises
Exercise medial thigh muscles. Sports torso, thigh, the abdominal pressure acting on the vagina, resulting in excitement, while vaginal opening, which will help local blood patency.
Sitting, hands rearways,屈立left leg, right leg bent-knee outreaching, flat mat. Hip, left leg outreach, slightly stretched; to lay down their buttocks, right leg to do the same for action. Repeated 5 times to do.
Abdominal exercises
Strong abdominal muscles to maintain satisfactory sexual function is an important condition.
Supine, legs buckling, tuck hands will pull the knee to the chest, slightly hard, so that both hands trembling slightly, then slowly relax. Then extend the hip joint, try to make the best legs stretched flat. Re-admission leg hip flexor, so that the knees on chest. Repeated 5 times to do. Finally, both hands placed side, legs straight up give 5 times, or separately on the legs move about 5 times.
Pelvic Exercises
Pelvis before and after exercise on the exercise to the pelvis and abdominal muscles is important.
Squat, knees peg-leg, two-legged about 60 centimeters separate hands叉腰. Inspiratory will pelvis forward; breath, back to the pelvis, at the same time stick up from the hips backwards as far as possible. Repeated 10 times to do.
Massage practice
Experience increased sexual pleasure.
Supine position, with bent knees, knees to separate the relative foot, by hand from the knee to the thigh massage the roots to the bottom-up Massage腿根later. When inspiratory massage, hand back when the breath knee. Repeated 5 times to do. Massage to relax and pay attention to experience the actions arising from systemic sexual comfort.
Open practice
Can enhance women's uterus, vagina and pelvic muscles feel.
Supine, knees, separate the thigh, gently separate the labia, hands on thighs, and then moved to腿根, while minimizing the hip flexor knees, thighs and then slowly straighten. Feel very comfortable.
Supine, with his legs apart, peg-leg. Left hand on the lower left abdomen, scapula relaxed medial thigh muscles have a sense of nervous. Knee slowly circled to do sports, inner thighs appeared pleasure. There is this feeling, it will focus on the suprapubic protuberans Department, and on quite pubis, but always hip pad.
Extrusion practice genital
Will enable the buttocks and thighs bodybuilding, muscle flexibility.
Prone, upper lateral Show flat, right leg straight, left knee on planes at right leg, foot绷直left knee as far as possible touchdown. Torsional twist of hip, then hip, abdominal Acinetobacter maintain 1O seconds. And then the next left leg, right leg up to do the same moves at. More forcefully twisting twist, vaginal orifice and labia minora by the greater pressure. Around the legs of the duplicate 3 times. Because of the squeeze and relax the thigh, genitals will be a sudden decrease in the blood and increase in genital relaxation that I am comfortable.
Hip exercises
Healthy, strong sexual life in favor of gluteal muscle. Gluteal muscle contraction to stimulate and control of systolic and diastolic Vagina.
Beat hip: hip promote blood circulation, reflex to make the vaginal relaxation has fever and flu. In the shower to beat better.
Kneading the buttocks: kneading the buttocks can stimulate deep muscle nerve. Kneading shower comfort. Kneading the hands of the best pre-painted some lubricant to facilitate the operation. Kneading required to bring the buttocks muscles, feel sick and relax after a turn for the better.
Standing with his hands to break apart and the buttocks, while inspiratory; let go, breath. Repeated 5 times to do. And prone, with his gluteal pressure, inspiratory; let go when the breath. Repeat 5 times. This practice more intense, can produce obvious pleasure.
Shrink anal,憋尿Sports
Every day 3 times a hundred to do, every one under the continuous seconds. Through the exercise pelvic floor, buttocks, thighs and abdominal muscles, strengthen the uterus, vagina and intestinal function, thereby enabling you to improve the sexual function, sexual pleasure can be increased. If long-term exercise, you will surely become a sweet and sexy woman!
Shame tail muscle exercises
Fuck this section through the pubic coccygeal muscle exercise can significantly improve sexual function, but also to improve the uterine cavity organ function, prevent the occurrence of stress urinary incontinence. Fuck this for any age women are fit, in particular, are naturally maternal childbirth. Beneficial to improve sexual function.
